My boyfriend tells too many lies

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and I have a boyfriend who is 20. We are getting along well, but he lies a lot.

Recently, I found out that he is seeing another girl. I asked him about it and he told me that they are only good friends. He said she is forcing herself on him. I asked him what that means and he said she is always calling him to find out where he is and sending him texts. I told him to show me some of the texts, but he refused. He said the texts will cause me to be upset with him. I don't like what I am hearing because this girl is just 17.

He was supposed to take me to an event at the stadium. He told me to meet him at Half-Way Tree, but when I got there I did not see him. I called him, but he did not answer his phone, so I went to the venue alone and I saw some of my friends, so I joined them. They took me home after the show. He called me when I got home and told me a bunch of lies, including that his phone fell in water and wasn't working. I asked him how it is that the phone is working now and he said he dried it out. I believe that he went out with the girl. So I don't know if I can trust him. I told him I was tired, so I was going to sleep.

Early the following day, he called me and said that he wanted us to meet; I told him I was busy and I would call him back, but I did not. There is another young man who likes me and I am wondering if I should drop this guy and go out with him. I believe that is what I should do, but I do not want to make a mistake. Everybody at the Stadium event was hugging and I was there alone. I felt hurt, and I still feel hurt. It is not that I can't do better; I can. I don't have to tolerate the lies that this man tells. I want your advice.

L.K.

Dear L.K.,

If you believe that this man is a liar and you should not trust him, drop him; do so right away.

A liar cannot be trusted. You are only 19 years old. You have a big future before you, so don't make yourself a fool. Even if it was true that his phone fell in water, he could have borrowed a phone from someone else and called you. That is a stupid excuse; some of these guys, when they lie so much, they expect the women to believe them.

If a girl is desperate for a man, she would believe every nonsense, but if she is not desperate, she would weigh carefully what the man has said and tell him to get lost. I am not saying that you should get rid of this man and get involved with another man. Consider your options carefully and make your decision. Your social life is important, but you need to make sure that you get an education, so that you can take very good care of yourself. That should be the priority for a 19-year-old woman.

Bye- bye.

Pastor